I don't keep these people in my life because I'm a glutton for punishment, but I like them. I'll always have my complaints about people, even those closest to me. That just comes with life. I just don't like it when I'm painted as the bad person because I didn't give 110% when the person complaining didn't even give 10%. I go to Salem and get snapped at because I didn't see certain people. It is the same 6 people every time that complain about me not seeing them but never put the effort to make it easier for me by meeting me in the middle somehow. Just because I have a car doesn't mean gas materializes out of thin air.
Next, over generalizations....stop using them. Don't tell me I'm doing it here, I'm just not wanting to pick people out, I'm not saying "nobody does this or everyone does this" I'm saying, certain people are making my stress levels go higher. what I mean by generalizations is....don't tell me everyone bails on you when I'm the one that stays or that everyone talks about you behind your back when I don't. you can say I think some people might be doing this or some people bail on me more than others, but to say everyone does something is discrediting the people that do try and it is hard for those people (usually me included) not to take it personally.
I'm sorry if none of this makes sense, but I just needed to rant and get it out so I can go to sleep and not be angry. I am warning people ahead of time, stop painting me as the bad person when you aren't willing to put forward the same effort you expect me to put forward.
Good bye and good night
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ReplyDeleteI agree with you on a lot of these things - I often find people telling me that "nobody bothers with them" or "nobody cares" when I'm the one that's driven out there/spent time that I was supposed to be doing other things trying to make them feel better, and I get included in the "not caring" group. It sucks.
ReplyDeleteIn the past I also had an experience with someone who expected me to always come and see her; I already spent several nights a week at her house, I would have to get up super early to go home and get ready for work and she would get cranky when I bailed once or twice to finish an assignment, saying that I never tried to see her and that I was a bad friend for not trying hard enough. She never came to see me or arranged to give me lifts, she just expected me to go back and forth and sacrifice practically my whole life for her. Eventually she blew up at me and we stopped talking.. it could have ended better but in the long run I am really glad it ended - it was far too stressful and she always expected me to give everything and she just took. In other words, sometimes as much as you love someone (she was one of my best friends) they just aren't worth it, if they aren't willing to give it back.
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Rebecca